We’re jumping from self-limiting to self-leadership.

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I help people break up

with their recurring

bullsh*t patterns

in real life.

I help women who are exhausted by self-improvement see that their recurring bullsh*t patterns are actually misapplied strengths

Women who feel disconnected from their true potential — but know there is more for them.

I help them break up with recurring bullsh*t patterns in life, love, and work

so they can go from SELF-LIMITING

to SELF-LEADERSHIP.

I help women, just like you,

reconnect with their

authentic potential.

YOUR POTENTIAL IS ONLY AS GOOD AS YOUR SELF-LEADERSHIP.

YOUR SELF-LEADERSHIP IS ONLY AS GOOD AS YOUR ABILITY TO BREAK YOUR RECURRING, SELF-LIMITING PATTERNS.

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Did you ever think that understanding yourself would be the key to finally showing up as YOU?

To stop missing out on your life? To finally feel present, full of purpose, and like you belong in every single room you find yourself in... as you?

I did the same exhausting dance… over and over.

  • Not knowing if I was where I was meant to be — ever

  • Not knowing what I was meant for, why I did the things I did

  • Not quite understanding what was behind me... or ahead of me

  • Getting stuck in recurring patterns in life, love, and work — what seemed like against my own will and intent

  • Wondering those age-old questions: Who am I? What am I made for... and is it more than, just this? Is there more out there for me?

Using who I am to break free from recurring life patterns changed everything about where I was headed.

Let me share it with you.

When I learned about my personality type I learned:

My big, fat, WHY that was driving patterns in behavior, thinking, and feeling.

That my unique personality traits were actually both assets and liabilities that needed to be managed, and how to do it.

A direct pathway to intentional, authentic, and no-longer-burnt-out living through sustainable self-leadership.

Why my current choices weren’t working out for me and what I was missing when making life plans.

Genuine self-understanding with actual next steps and without the BS.

What environments, circles, relationships, and communities I would really thrive in.

The roots of my recurring patterns in life, love, and work.

That ‘willpower’ as the factor behind change would never have worked

because I couldn’t just will myself into being someone else;

if I could just decide to be different it would have worked by now;

that the true difference between my assets & liabilities was how much I understood them & how well I managed them.

I’m Jackie Contessa,

Personality-Based Life Coach

I’M NOT HERE TO REGURGITATE FREE INFORMATION YOU CAN FIND ONLINE.

I’M HERE TO CUT THROUGH THE NOISE SO YOU CAN LEVERAGE WHO YOU ARE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.

Let's be real - we're living in an information era, and you can find endless Enneagram content online for free. But you're here because knowledge without implementation is just trivia.

& I have a one-size-fits-all allergy.

I'm not here to regurgitate information from the internet, another coach’s material, or popular Enneagram rhetoric - I'm here to help you cut through the noise and actually implement what you learn about your recurring BS patterns.

My job is to guide you onto the path of becoming WHO YOU REALLY ARE, using your unique personality as the ultimate tool for transformation.

Together, we'll uncover both your assets and the liabilities that lie under the surface, creating the foundation for the most kick-ass, table-flipping 'reset' of your life.

Because knowledge without implementation?

That's just another bullsh*t pattern.

I want you to be able to stop asking,

“Is there more for me?”

and see that the more IS you.

How you do one thing is how you do everything .

Why you do one thing is why you do everything.

THE ENNEAGRAM IS

a powerful personality system that offers deep insights into our motivations, behaviors, and opportunities for personal growth in a way that is both digestible and specific.

It causes us to look at our why: the core motivators behind us, unlike the habits and characteristics they cause us to develop.

I use a person-first, non-spiritual, psychology-based approach to understanding the 9 personality archetypes.

Why? Because understanding yourself shouldn't be overwhelming or intimidating – it should speak your language and apply directly to your life.

Using the Enneagram with a coach, (this one) you can:

  • Decode your core blueprint of thinking, feeling, and behaving - not just surface-level traits, but the deep-seated motivations that drive every decision you make, from career choices to relationship patterns

  • Break through the "personality description paralysis" that keeps you stuck reading endless online descriptions without actually changing your life

  • Uncover your authentic motivational patterns in work, love, and creativity - what genuinely drives YOU to thrive (and holds you back from doing it!)

  • Master your stress and security responses by understanding your type's specific growth and stress paths, allowing you to catch yourself before falling into old patterns

  • Transform your relationships by understanding both your natural compatibility zones AND your blind spots - no more wondering why some connections flow effortlessly while others feel like constant work

  • Develop personalized communication strategies that honor your individual strengths while still bridging gaps with people in your world - essential for both personal and professional relationships

  • Break free from recurring bullsh*t patterns (come on, we can agree on that) that keep you stuck in life, love, and work - we'll identify your specific self-sabotage strategies and create targeted solutions

  • Learn to leverage both your assets AND liabilities - because true growth comes from understanding how your challenges can become your greatest strengths

  • Learn, set, and keep boundaries that actually work for YOU - not generic advice, but specific lines and limits that protect your energy and honor your natural way of being

  • Discover your personal early warning signs that tell you you're veering off your authentic path, before you end up in a full-blown crisis

  • Master your inner critic by understanding its origins and messages - turning that critical voice into a constructive ally rather than a constant enemy

  • Build a sustainable approach to personal growth that doesn't feel like forcing yourself into someone else's mold - because true transformation happens when we work with our personality, not against it

  • Develop a deep, authentic understanding of what you really want to accomplish beyond surface-level goals and wins.

  • Create practical action steps for growth that honor your natural way of processing and implementing change - no more trying to force yourself into one-size-fits-all personal development approaches

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